Hi All, Well I experienced first hand this weekend that while we are both piecing ... when they are having a bad time, how despite our efforts we can still get sucked into it. The W has been feeling under the weather thru the weekend. I tried to be supportive as much as possible.
I called my W Friday, to let her know I would be a little late due to the computer problems at work were causing a delay in getting payroll done. I was going to stop at the bank as it was payday for me as well (monthly) and get gas, when she expressed her disappointment, so I took off from work and went straight home. When I came home from work, W was in bed and D was lying on the couch with the sniffles watching TV. I made myself some dinner, cleaned up the kitchen from the day's meals. By then my W wanted something light to eat so I made her some eggs and toast. D developed a fever, so I stayed up with her until very late. Started to plead to sleep with us in our bed. Just not enough room for the three of us, so I set up her mattress at the foot of our bed and she finally settled down for the night. Because of the late night I stayed in bed to about 10 the next morning. W had already started the laundry. As I made my breadfast, W seemed peeved about something, but when I asked she said she was just tired. We were suppose to hits some sales today. I wanted to go to a model train show (yes...I still play with choo choo's ), but W just wasn't up to it. D was feeling much better, so I convinced her to go with me and allow my W some alone time. Was out for 3 hours and we had a fun time (D won TWO door prizes at show). Bought W a flower arrangement to help cheer her up and it did for a little while. W didn't do anymore on laundry while we were out so I took over and finished it. She planned stew for diner, didn't want to start it. D & I really had a taste for it, so I said I would make it. She decided to help put it together (her recipe). After diner, I started to clean the dishes. She said she would do them when she felt better. I piped in that it would be easier for me to stay on top of them now then letting them heap up for her to do latter. She helped rinse & dry while I washed. W was sleeping in bed by 8. I watched D until her bedtime, then read til I got tired.
Sunday, W was feeling better so we shopped some, then did our monthly groceries. When we came home, I started a wash of new shirts I bought, then we started putting the groceries away. My W put the cold "stuff" away and then left the rest (boxes, cans & bottles, bags, etc.) for me. W did place my new shirts in dyer as I then collected the monthly bills to be paid. Normally when we do them together it takes about half an hour. As I sat down at the kitchen table to work on them she went to watch some TV. After an hour, I still worked on the bills, she called for a pizza for dinner. My resentment built quickly. After all this weekend of helping her at every turn and the first task I do that I would appreciate some help with ( and she usually does ) , she ignores me. I let my bad mood show, and she wanted to know why I was angry. Recently, I would let it go to avoid the arguement, but not this time. We had our first fight since June. She felt she needed to rest and relax a little before dinner (pizza delivery? ), and we could had done bills later in the evening. I responded that in the evening I would need to get ready for work and after that would like to wind down a little before going to bed and that sitting at the kitchen table stuffing envelopes is not that exerting. She came back that she helped me by putting my shirts in the dyer for me. It came to me that we were starting to backslide in a way we haven't before, so I dropped it and kept my distance for the rest of the night. This was to prevent any further backslide as we both would continue to try to get the last word in.
This morning I woke up not feeling good so I kept a still kept withdrawn a bit but pleasant when she spoke to me. She ask if there was something wrong and I mentioned I didn't feel too well. She said so stay home. I said I was well enough to go to work. As I sat here reading the BB, it came to me that tonight I needed to go home and do what would be needed to make tonite better than the weekend has been. Then during my lunch I received a phone call from my W. She was calling to see how I was doing. . For years, she has never called just to see how I was doing! She is reaching out to me to show me she cares in ways she hasn't in a long time. She also noted we both weren't have a good day yesterday and it lead to the fight. It seems we both know now we need to turn the bad days back into good days ... at least we know were still on the same team.
P.S. Wasn't planning on this being so long a post and now don't have time to proofread. I apoligize in advance for any typos.
), but W just wasn't up to it. D was feeling much better, so I convinced her to go with me and allow my W some alone time. Was out for 3 hours and we had a fun time (D won TWO door prizes at show). Bought W a flower arrangement to help cheer her up and it did for a little while. W didn't do anymore on laundry while we were out so I took over and finished it. She planned stew for diner, didn't want to start it. D & I really had a taste for it, so I said I would make it. She decided to help put it together (her recipe). After diner, I started to clean the dishes. She said she would do them when she felt better. I piped in that it would be easier for me to stay on top of them now then letting them heap up for her to do latter. She helped rinse & dry while I washed. W was sleeping in bed by 8. I watched D until her bedtime, then read til I got tired.
W did place my new shirts in dyer as I then collected the monthly bills to be paid. Normally when we do them together it takes about half an hour. As I sat down at the kitchen table to work on them she went to watch some TV. After an hour, I still worked on the bills, she called for a pizza for dinner. My resentment built quickly. After all this weekend of helping her at every turn and the first task I do that I would appreciate some help with ( and she usually does ) , she ignores me. I let my bad mood show, and she wanted to know why I was angry. Recently, I would let it go to avoid the arguement, but not this time. We had our first fight since June. She felt she needed to rest and relax a little before dinner (pizza delivery? 
), and we could had done bills later in the evening. I responded that in the evening I would need to get ready for work and after that would like to wind down a little before going to bed and that sitting at the kitchen table stuffing envelopes is not that exerting. She came back that she helped me by putting my shirts in the dyer for me. It came to me that we were starting to backslide in a way we haven't before, so I dropped it and kept my distance for the rest of the night. This was to prevent any further backslide as we both would continue to try to get the last word in.
. For years, she has never called just to see how I was doing! She is reaching out to me to show me she cares in ways she hasn't in a long time. She also noted we both weren't have a good day yesterday and it lead to the fight. It seems we both know now we need to turn the bad days back into good days ... at least we know were still on the same team. 
