Kaw, when your wife starting realizing she wanted to work on the M., did she go through periods of distancing and withdrawal? My H.sometimes is right there ready to come into ecceptance stage but he keeps this wall up. He does so many things I thought he'd never do again, but I still miss the little things, like him putting his arm around me, ya know feelin' good about being together stuff. I mean he takes my hand in the car. He is nice-although sometimes I detect a surge of anger sometimes that he holds in check. I still watch what I say. Its not the easy going relationship I want it to be yet. IF you went through it, you know it hurts that they are here, but thery aren't all here. What did you do with those feelings? So many times over the weekend I wanted to start an OR talk hopping it would lead to somekind of insight to make us closer but I couldn't bring myself to do it. I felt like he might shut down thinking I was not noticing what he HAS been doing. Am I right to keep my mouth shut? I am SO loving to him! He is loving in return but it's somehow still just not right. What do I do? Any suggestions? It hurts having him here,but not all here..I'm wondering where the rest of him is?? We won't go there~ Rachael
