I am sorry about your situation!!! I just got back from vacation and have been sick, so I've not been on the board for nearly a month.
You've really come a long way. I know that I have as well. I love the idea of DBing, but there are some marriages that are harder to keep going - and sometimes it just hangs on one or two issues. I love my H, I have a great time with him - we just had a great trip, but we have some real issues with money (he makes enough, but there are some really head-banging issues for me. We'll just say I'm a saver). He also has an occasional really bad temper - but thank goodness that is only a couple of times a year thing. But there are times when it's going great, at least in my mind - and times when it feels like everything is hanging on a thread. The difference now is me. I've put a sizable amount of money in a house fund, which I consider untouchable. H doesn't understand that. If I feel forced to go into it for anything at all (unless it is a major, big time emergency), I will then get another job and make sure that my future is taken care of, and will not consider it as much "our" future. It sounds harsh, but I don't make as much money as he does, but I need to make sure I have something for retirement, and maybe a townhouse if we don't work out.
My weight and health are going great, and otherwise my life is pretty good. I now have more friends, volunteer work, a life. It sounds like you have a lot going on outside your marriage as well.
You sound great, Ellie - I do hope your M works out, but just make sure that you are watching over yourself!!!
