Thanks Kaw-it all makes sense if I can get it in my silly little head how this works I will be alot less stressed. I can see how memaking the cahnges that he needed me to make have already made an impact. It will be alwhile before he beleives they are firever, but he will see as time goes by.IT will all work out-I am having more and more confidence of that every week. He does not act like a man who is going anywhere. He's gonna be so in love with me just in the next few months-I know how he works nad what he needs-he needs to be loved and appreciated and he is a man that loves his family. NO room for OW anywhere around here. She will have to go look someplace else because she's not getting my man! Rachael