I'm so sorry your H is getting freaky again. I'm sure you know you should trust yourself here, and that sucks. Not that it need be an A or anything -- but something is up with him, he's not feeling good about himself, so he's becoming hypercritical of you. Yuck. Double Yuck.
One of the most valuable life lessons I learned DBing was that people become critical of others (especially those close to them) when they are unhappy with themselves. It is good you recognize that -- it keeps you from buying into his ideas about you. But, it is frustrating, because men (lol) seem to be so good at externalizing their own stuff and putting it onto others that it is hard for them to recognize what is going on. Again, Yuck.
It is great to see you keeping your confidence and your head, lol. Good luck with the job search. But, I agree that you working won't fix the problem -- and then it will just find something else to pick at. So, don't let him push you if it isn't what you think is best right now for you and your family (including him, lol).
I hope I hear from you soon that he's decided to take antidepressants.
All is well here. Newtimer has grown and matured amazingly since I last wrote you. I can't believe how many changes there are in 7 weeks. She's still sleeping through the night though :-)
