It's strange to hear this from you. You know how much control you have over any other person. You know better than to borrow trouble, too. This must really have you worried.
How about starting now on trying to keep speaking his LL and "angle" your speech to make it recognition of all the good in your lives? I don't recall if H is a WOA kinda guy, but since that's the easiest one for my example purposes , I'll use it. Try telling him how glad you are about your home, S19's college, whatever, and what a great sign of the important success that is. No guarantees, but if you really want to feel that you're doing something, and since it's not the kind of thing that would hurt your R, why not? Unless your heart is set on driving the "hers" Corvette from Julian down into town on a summer night.
Thanks,
Joe
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, I'll use it. Try telling him how glad you are about your home, S19's college, whatever, and what a great sign of the important success that is. No guarantees, but if you really want to feel that you're doing something, and since it's not the kind of thing that would hurt your R, why not? Unless your heart is set on driving the "hers" Corvette from Julian down into town on a summer night. 
