Hi Rach, Thanks for dropping by. It sounds to me like you are starting to put much of the insecurities behind and moving on and your last post here has so much potential to work with. Your ready to start the next level...
How can you trust him? As long as he is attracted to the Racheal he chose to be with, then he will NEVER doubt that decision. You need to do the things that atracted him to be with you in order for him to confirm his decision to love you. In your last post, he told you of a whole list of things that will keep him attracted to you.
Sometimes its hard to start having fun. What is more important is just to start doing more things together. Learn to be spontaneous again. I found I had to make a conscientious decision to be spontaneous For years we were stuck in a rut of staying home every week night. Now, I come home from work and W hasn't made diner yet, I say everybody gather up we are going out to diner, then after diner, I say something like "Well since we are already out, why don't we go walk the mall." By the time we are back home, we have spent an enjoyable evening together. Rach, how about doing a candlelight diner for him to come home to, then maybe a relaxing evening on the porch or a quiet walk around the neighborhood. I list these suggestions to spark something you can think of that the two of you might find as a pleasurable way to spend an evening. Read through you last post again. Instead of hoping Adrian will make plans for fun, you need to do it and invite him to join you. If he says "naw", then you need to go do it yourself and act "AS-IF" you are doing for yourself and you intend to have fun whether he is with you or not. This is the Rachael he wants to be attracted to.
Gotta get some work done now, will try to post more later.
For years we were stuck in a rut of staying home every week night. Now, I come home from work and W hasn't made diner yet, I say everybody gather up we are going out to diner, then after diner, I say something like "Well since we are already out, why don't we go walk the mall." By the time we are back home, we have spent an enjoyable evening together. Rach, how about doing a candlelight diner for him to come home to, then maybe a relaxing evening on the porch or a quiet walk around the neighborhood. I list these suggestions to spark something you can think of that the two of you might find as a pleasurable way to spend an evening. Read through you last post again. Instead of hoping Adrian will make plans for fun, you need to do it and invite him to join you. If he says "naw", then you need to go do it yourself and act "AS-IF" you are doing for yourself and you intend to have fun whether he is with you or not. This is the Rachael he wants to be attracted to.
