"When do we start to believe them again?" Well, isn't that the question of the century .
How about this: I find out one morning about H's EA (had PA last year). He tells the kids he doesn't love me like he should (told me that a month prior). Told the kids he wasn't sure he wanted to be married to me anymore (also told me that a month prior). I told him to leave. He wanted to stay until he had some place to go. I asked him if he'd be willing to stop talking with the EA while he stayed in our home. He said he wasn't sure. I told him that was unacceptable and that he had to leave. He stayed. We talked for 48 hours. Yes, just two days later he's asking me to give him another chance; that he does love me -- always had, always will; and that, yes, he will give up all contact with the EA.
So, yeah, TWO DAYS!! How do I believe that? I guess I believe it because of his actions. Unfortunately, I still get those same ugly thoughts that you mentioned. They'll go away eventually -- they have to, don't they?
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