Thanks Andy, I agree that "...sometimes people use them intuitively without knowing they're "acting as-if", "doing a 180", or whatever..." and have made reference to such many times. I have even noticed how the roles reverse when people on this board express their doubts at their partner's change in behavior...(myself included).
But it shock me to hear her express the very same kind of insecurity I've have been struggling with every day ever since the "bomb" back in Feb. If they go dark, it becomes very difficult to hold your own imagination in check as to why they are withdrawing. One cannot help but wonder if it is a repeat of earlier behaviors / thoughts? Enough! I do try not to dwell on such.
Andy, I did miss your absence from the boards. I have gleaned much insight from your postings and do welcome you back. You haven't posted much about your sitch recently except the kinda cryptic one on Lily's thread. I do hope you doing well.
If they go dark, it becomes very difficult to hold your own imagination in check as to why they are withdrawing. One cannot help but wonder if it is a repeat of earlier behaviors / thoughts?
