Thanks everyone for the boost, however I still feel I really havn't accomplished much to move us foward from this. I do feel little more secure in that the issues she is dealing with are not exclusively about OM. From her journal entry of last Monday I was wondering if perhaps she might obsessing over OM.
Tbone - I agree about her feeling ugly on the inside and I believe it is because of guilt and does not have the strength to face it right now. This probably also why she doesn't want to talk either in fear of the guilt raising its ungly head during the discussion. <sigh> It is going to take a long time to get past this one.
Tree & Andy - A big part of her reoccurring depression is because she does not want to talk to anyone. She just holds all her feelings in until they overwhelm her. She has been to a couple of C over the years and recently we did go to C in during this spring, but she feels no one will ever understand her and is tired of everyone making choices for her or telling her what to do. This perception was at full force with PA. Friends & family were telling her she shouldn't "walk away" from M, fellow workers at the school (this is where W & OM met) were telling her OM is no good and there is no future there. C was telling W to "walk away" and cease all initimacy with H, which is probably why she never really left and we had frequent moments of passion ... (And yes we were victims of the wrong kind of C. Went to employer's program before knowing about DB.) I have mention about seeing a new C again during our recent talk but she flat out refused so I dropped it. If I can get her to soften up to me and release some of her feelings to me, so I can validate her feelings, then she will less likey to become overwelm by them and perhaps start to face them and deal with them. It did seem to help her lift her mood by talking about them the other night. Yesterday, she had another bad day...At nephews party, my youngest D had binged...when they left the party a thunderstorm approach causing D to panic and throw up all over the car. This triggered one of my W's panic attacks at the side of the road. When I came home, she told me all about it and managed to smile afterwards, then seeked comfort in my presence rather than becoming withdrawn.
I just need to keep those lines of commuication open between her and me...
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(And yes we were victims of the wrong kind of C. Went to employer's program before knowing about DB.) I have mention about seeing a new C again during our recent talk but she flat out refused so I dropped it. If I can get her to soften up to me and release some of her feelings to me, so I can validate her feelings, then she will less likey to become overwelm by them and perhaps start to face them and deal with them. It did seem to help her lift her mood by talking about them the other night. Yesterday, she had another bad day...At nephews party, my youngest D had binged...when they left the party a thunderstorm approach causing D to panic and throw up all over the car. This triggered one of my W's panic attacks at the side of the road. When I came home, she told me all about it and managed to smile afterwards, then seeked comfort in my presence rather than becoming withdrawn.
