I could have wrote most everything in your last post at some point in my sitch. You did great by riding out the "big chill" and then offering your support when your imagination was getting the best of you. Picture perfect, you were. I know what you are dealing with in regards to your W self image. Just keep confirming her progress and eventually she will see it too. I personnally think she feels "ugly on the inside" for what she has done. That will take time to go away. Very important now to be her friend while she works through this. She realizes you have changed and now it is her turn and she probably just can't do it fast enough for either of you.
You kicked a$$ and gave me inspiration to keep doing those same sorts of things on my end. You have got the OM down but don't screw it up by changing the "game plan". Keep doing what works, right? We all know how poorly the "prevent" defense" works. Don't try and just maintain your lead, keep charging. Don't just tell her how pretty (sexy, attractive) she is, show her. The next time she is undressing or getting out of the shower, attack her. When it is all over tell her she is so attractive that you just couldn't contain yourself. If it isn't a good time to complete the attack at least let her know how "hot" she got you just with her presence. I would wager significant cash that she will think of it the next time she is concerned about her "body image".
Don't change a thing Kaw. Well, maybe do some things to distract your wild imagination. That is probably your worst enemy right now. You did a great thing by getting out of there when she was cold. Do that if you have to and come back in a great mood. You can lead her out by example just like you did at the wedding.
