I wish I had more to give you today. I am just about spent. I hope someone else will step in. What I can tell you is that this is all about YOU and what you will be able to tolerate. My W had an affair for 2+ months, told me about it and continued it for 4 months more. She did not agree to be "open" and I didn't ask her to be. I read DB and decided that this was for me. I stopped begging and being so obsessed with what she was doing and focused on what I was doing, and what I wanted to BE doing in the future.
Hope that helps a little, and like I said, hopefully someone else will chime in with some more specific advice for you.
