Kaw-seems to me she opened up quite a bit-more than a bit. She let you know exactly how she was feelihg about things INCLUDING the OM. SHe could have easily left that out but at least she's being honest. You did good by just being there for her and listening and not getting angry. Helping out the next day was most definately a winner. Sounds like she has some unresolved feeling for this OM, but she KNOWS she loves you so it tears her apart. I know-I've been there. Your head is telling you one thing and your heart pulls you in a different direction. My pastor once said something that I will NEVER forget. His brother was involved in a PA when he was married with 2 boys. My Pastor flew to where he was not knowing what he was going to say to him or do. When he saw him he just hugged him and they cried, His advise to his brother was decide what is the RIGHT thing to do, and then move towards it with all you have never looking back. Of course his brother new the RIGHT thing to do was stay with his family. His head told him that but his heart was pulling him away. We cannot always listen to our hearts-that means going on our FEELINGS. If we did that all the time look what a mes we'd ALL be in in every sitchuation of our lives. The very same thing happened to me and that was why this story had such a profound impact on me. My head told me the right things to do and my heart and feelings were pulling me away from my family. If you follow your HEAD and what you know is RIGHT, God will honor that, and you will find the love that was never really lost to begin with. I hope this helps in some small way. I wish I could say it to so many WAW and WAH's. They just follow the wrong lead. Rachael M.
