New post for me, feeling like I'm at a standtill and wondering how many others feel same?
quick update: WAH, back now with me 6 months,still MLC, was with OW 2 yrs.
I have returned to Piecing, because we are together now, but so much NOT together. My H is completely silent of his A, any R, any of his feelings, silent. Any others like this?
My H returned home saying "wants to try", but the MC of only 2 sessions did not go well. I have not attempted to push any R talk or MC. How can a couple repair if they cannot talk about what led up to the A?
There are many good things about the point we are at: wearing wedding rings again, SL, calling often, gifts. But the NOT talking is the hardest. I continue with indiviual C, H does not.
Any others feel this way? I can "pretend" we are on the surface happy, but every small attempt I make to initiate communication regarding real feelings is met with silence or it is clear H does not want to "get too deep"
How have others slowly, and patiently gotten a spouse like this to try to start to open up?
I can definitely tell spouse is more relaxed when I am up, when I am lighthearted and confident.....But on the inside I need to heal too and with so much silence I am not sure how either of us can.
