Update, H came home late and had an "excuse", I am at the point as if I really don't care anymore. I guess I have learned how to detach and have "dropped the rope".
I read PARob's new thread and the little snippet of info regarding that "rope". I can no longer be responsible for H's actions. Nor do I want to "react" to them. I am happy with my life, always have been. Is this a learning process for me? Hell, yes. Are there things I need to change about me? Hell, yes. I will do these things, not for my H's benefit, but for MY benefit.
If you have been following me from the beginning, you know that I was married before. 11 years, no kids, no regrets.
THIS marriage is my life, I LOVE this man probably more than he knows. IF I have to start over again, I want to know who I am and what my wants and needs are. Even if starting over means with my H (which I hope it will be).
Anyway....I am rambling. I think, lots of patience, compassion and walking in your spouse's shoes is KEY to the survival of your M. I know for a fact that I am guilty of thinking my way is the only way. Thinking that my H should think and feel EXACTLY the way that I do, well let me tell you that is totally wrong. H has his own ideas and feelings about things, they may be different from mine BUT they are definitely not wrong. This is what I am now working on....validation and empathy.
