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When I read your situation, it just seems like a crazy cycle. Something has to break that cylcle IMO.




Ok, I also agree with this. It IS a CRAZY cycle.

He won't admit to OW because he KNOWS that will be it for me. He knows I am ready to make a move, in either direction. He KNOWS I am strong enough to do it.

So, what I have decided to do is to continue on this DB path I have chosen. I know some of you will think, there she goes making empty threats to H and never following thru. I am sorry, but this is just something I have to do.

I will make a conscience effort to not be so "controlling" and maipulative with H, kids, family and friends. This was something I was working on with my counselor (when I was going). Any book reccomendations on this subject?

Thanks for all the concern and advice. I know I must sound like a lunatic loving him and working on my M one minute then getting a D the next. Believe me, I DO NOT want a D. If that is how my M will end it will because H files for it, not me. I have faith that our M can be saved. Hopefully, my H comes to that realazation soon too.