I also think it is important that H feels safe to make mistakes with us. We will still care about them. Nothing changes. I hope to give that message to my H when he begins his cycling and work on himself. I do not expect him to break it off with the OW completely right away. I am seeing too many men behaving in this pattern. I still think it is important that they are allowed to make mistakes with me and still be cared about. Holly
Bomb 1/06 D dismissed 11/07, attempt reconciliation. Premature. Divorce final October 31, 2008. OW looks like bad history. Over. Still hopeful. Baby steps. In R with my X.