Sorry to leave you all hanging, I'll try to recap what happened since Saturday night.

While my H was gone I called my girlfriend who knows of my sitch. She may not be book smart but she has ALOT of common sense and supports me no matter what decision I make. She is the one that advised me to start getting my ducks in a row. I reacted emotionally to the sitch. "That's it, it's over" Well, call me a doormat if you will but after I calmed down I realized that I DO NOT want this marriage to end and have seen the potential for so much good. Anyway....

H came home 2 hours later. I called to him from the living room and said if you have a minute we need to talk. He calmly said ok that he would be right there.

He sat on the couch next to me. I started out by saying
M: I love you but I don't think I can do this anymore. I have decided to go see an attorney on monday. I am going to put S4 into kindergarten and look into before and after school care for all the kids. The way I see it we will have no choice but to sell the house........(more but I can't remember)
H: I don't want a divorce. I don't know what's wrong with me. Maybe I am having a MLC, I don't know. I'm just so tired and angry all the time. I love you guys and I could never to that to the kids. I don't want to F them up. It just gets me mad that I have to ask you permission if I want to go out with the guys for a few drinks after work.
M: For one, you don't have to ask my permission, all I ask is for a little respect. Believe it or not, I get excited when it's time for you to come home, I love spending time with you and then when you don't come home and don't call I get really dissapointed. I want you to have friends. I want you to be happy, I don't want you to get up, go to work, come home, go to sleep and start all over again the next day. I would just like you to give me a call letting me know what is up.
H: I know but I feel like if I call you, you are going to give me crap and make me feel guilty for going.
M: I'm sorry you feel that way, I guess it is part of my P/A personality and I will definitely try to work on that.

The convo went on for about an hour, in the end I felt like I still didn't know what he wanted from me. I said
"So you want to stay married, you do your own thing and I do my own thing and we don't have to answer to eachother anymore?"
H: No not at all. I'm just so tired and angry all the time.
M: Do you want to talk to somebody about that?
H: No, I don't believe in counseling and I don't like talking to people.
M: Let me ask you something and please be honest with me, Is there anyone else involved in this equation.
H: No, absolutely not.

If I remember anything else of importance that was said I will update.

The rest of the night went fine. I made him dinner and we watched TV.

Sunday was business as usual. Big family breakfast. H went rollerblading. Cut the lawn and washed the cars together. Then we went to get H a new bicycle and took our S4 out to lunch. Came home and went for a bikeride, sat outside then watched TV. He was sweet and kind to me like the day before never happened.

So.....armchair analysts, what do you make of this?