I imagine your H's angry outburst was scary for you. But try not to react too quickly. Your H loves you and the kids. He is being pulled in two directions. His life is a mess, and he knows it. Don't let him make you out to be the "bad guy" by reacting into his hand. You have come so far! I am so impressed with your strength and wisdom. Just give this a few days. Hopefully, H will appear again, less emotional, and will be able to let you know what has triggered him. That would be a good thing. However, if you feel you are in personal danger (physically) then by all means, get out. However, I have not gotten the impression that that is the case. I think your H is just hitting the wall. Take some deep breaths, be with your kids, try to stay calm, and step back and observe for just a little bit longer. Calm. Slow and steady. Don't let H's out of control behavior shift you to try to control everything. Stable and steady. Deep breath. Do something fun with the kids. And then see what happens next. Try not to panic and accelerate your action mode, just yet.
Then next week, Mama, if you want to get a job, enroll the kids in school, talk to a lawyer, whatever, do it when you are calm - because it is what you want for you.
Rooting for you, mama. You are amazing. You are stronger every day. Everything will be alright. Really! Just hang in there.
PositivelyListening ************************************** When one door of happiness closes, another one opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us. - Helen Keller
