hi, i have been around the newcomers board since nov of last year and the infidelity board since feb. now i lurk here and there. first thing that comes to mind is how great you guys are. it gives me hope that my h may someday grow into a man like one of you. in a lot of the cases i see the spouse who is left takes some share of responsibility for the affair or the walking away and makes changes to become a better person and partner. it is a win-win situation and you guys are proof. no matter what the ultimate outcome, you guys will be ok, better than ok! i do notice that you seem to treat your wives like children sometimes, but maybe that is part of unconditional love. my h walked out on me and our baby after 8 years of marriage because he didn't want the responsibilty. he wanted to party, have sex with other women and forget about me. he has even admitted it had nothing to do with me other than i stood in the way of his freedom. he admits i did nothing wrong, he had nothing bad to say about me or the type of wife i was. he just didn't want to be married, just wasn't in love. my question is this; how do i believe him now? he says he wants to be married now and be a good dad. the single life with the ow wasn't what he thought it would be. he realizes he loves us and wants us now. how do you guys find peace with your wives? can a man change so quickly from a lying cheating walk away to a decent husband and father? thanks,lisa
