One, my wife constantly loving me and supporting me, even though she did not know about OW, I was still gone.
Two, my clarity slowly began to come back.
You can be strong for days, weeks, months, years... I don't know I do think he will see the grass was greener on the side he was on.
That WILL happen.
I guess I am so absorbed by guilt that when I hear of these sitch of wives staying w thier H when they know they are in an affair blows me away.
Again, if my W knew about mine (even though it's finished) she would be gone.
I do think that there is something to this DB stuff from what I have read. My wife did the same thing even though she never read the book. That was a major piece of me coming back home.
But I just can't see how long a LBS can do this. I cannot comprehend that kind of strength and resolution.
My heart goes out to you.
Yes my wife was an enabler in my affair. She never asked me where I was the night before. She never asked me who I was with, she just loved me.
Hell I could have went on with my affair for months and months if she kept that approach. Luckily I did not. Her approach was one of the reasons I came back - like I said.
But damn...how long can this go on????? Ultimately I guess that's up to you.
All I can tell you is that at some point his "switch" will turn on. He will see what he has thrown away. And the pain you are feeling now, will never equate to the pain, regret and resentment towards the OW that you are feeling now.
You ARE doing the right thing now. I hope you have the resolve and his clarity sets in VERY soon.
Hang in there Strongbear. You are doing the right thing. Also listen to GH. GH seems to have a good grasp on things too.
