I've always loved that term. I thought I was the only one who used it.
Any woman who goes after a married man is F-cked in the head to some degree. And I agree the spouse that gets caught up is F-cked in the head in the head too. I just hope it's just temporary insanity for me.
FYI the meal when he got home was a great idea. OW will do things like that in the begining, but that will wain b/c they do not love the H. Just their own selfish desires. You made that meal out of LOVE and support. The OW will make the meal out of manipulation.