Quote: In my mind, each little thing she did to NOT live up to my expectations "hurt me" and thus I had no compassion for her
Ditto. I think I am also guilty of this. Hopefully I now have some clarity. On Jokermans' thread there is a link to The Dairy of an Affair. This has helped me tremendously to find compassion and empathy for my H.
I want more than anything for my marriage to stay together. I don't want to be here anymore unless it is to offer advise to others going thru what I went thru.
I have to admit, I'm scared though. My heart is racing. I gave him an ultimatum and I'm afraid he will run for the OW because with her there are no problems, with her things are great. I'm not afraid to be alone, I fear losing the love of my life.
