Mama WILL rock H's world....eventually!

[Mamabear]

For what it's worth, this is my horoscope today:

After a long period of uncertainty, a few things start to finalize today. Wait a while before you celebrate, however -- nothing is written in stone just yet. But don't let the tentative nature of the situation push you into overanalyzing. You should feel like you're standing on solid ground, because you are. Things are definitely coming together, and you should sense a building momentum that will take you the rest of the way. Just don't make assumptions.

Anyhow, yesterday I took the kids on a very long bike ride to the lake (aprox. 5-6 miles one way). H called us when we were there, he was very impressed. He is very big into exercise. When he got home from work we took the kids bowling. We exchanged a couple of high fives, which he initiated - hey it's a form of touching, right?

This weekend we are going away with the kids to a waterpark hotel. I will try to be a little more "touchy/feely."

SS, I do think I look good, probably better than I have since we first met. Problem is I am not 23, I'm 43. I think my H is having a real hard time getting older and looking at me reminds him of that (he is only 38). Not much I can do about that.

[AmyC]

Mamabear,

43 is much sexier than 23!
It's all about your attitude and you have enough of it that it won't be long til he has no choice but to pull his head out of that OW's a$$.

I read this thread last night and I think you are doing wonderful!

As for your husband, I think he is very conflicted & tired.
Give him time.
I don't know how long his A has been going on or if he knows that you know about it, but I can tell you that the shine has worn of his 'new penny', if you know what I'm saying...
You keep on like you are and he'll be at that fork in the road before he knows what hit him....
Here's to praying he chooses wisely.
I really think he will.


AmyC

[frank_D]

I don't know how long his A has been going on or if he knows that you know about it, but I can tell you that the shine has worn of his 'new penny', if you know what I'm saying...

Yeah, and the "43 is not 23" argument also goes this way - a 23 year old woman hasn't really got the maturity (or experience) of a 43 year old woman. I know that I could not stand to hang around a lot of 23 year old women and actually have to TALK to them al lthe time. Sheesh!

We're just living in different worlds.

[Mamabear]

Thanks guys, you know what 43 IS GREAT!!! I wouldn't want to be 23 again. I REALLY feel that women reach their prime in their 40's. No BS, I mean it. I know what I like and dislike. I don't put up with the same crap that I used to. I don't try to "please" people anymore; if I like you, I like you, if I don't, well....I don't... I feel very secure and confident in myself. This last year has especially woken me up. No more doormat, no more worrying what others think. I REALLY don't care. I LOVE myself. I love how I look, I'm not perfect - but I have been pregnant 6 times (2 miscarriages, a stillborn and 3 beautifull children) and I'm proud of myself. Ya know what, "love me or leave me!!" THIS is who I am.

[AmyC]

AMEN to THAT, Mamabear!

You have what it takes to make it.

[PositivelyListening]

Hi MamaBear, I just caught up on your sitch, and you are doing so GREAT! And, I'm staring down 50 this year, and I can tell you I have not reached my prime yet! It just gets better and better. Even one of my daughter's guy friends (in his 20's) said I looked hot. Now that was a surprise, but you know what, yipee. And 6 miles on the bike with the kids mama - you are doing so so great. You know the boys are looking at you too. It is your character and inner beauty that will slay your H in the end though. You just keep up the good work. I believe what Amy C said to you - any minute now, your H is going to hit that fork in the road. And are you kidding, he may have acted like a fool a few times, but who would be fool enough to leave you and your pack of wonderful kids? No way, mama. I am rooting for you. And, yes, touchy is good Take all the opportunities, and go with it. A day in the sun at the water park is so good for that relaxed bedroom feeling when you come home. You have a GREAT attitude. I am betting on your success. Just keep doing what you're doin'. Patience love and a little spunk always, mama Rock on

[frank_D]

Thanks guys, you know what 43 IS GREAT!!! I wouldn't want to be 23 again. I REALLY feel that women reach their prime in their 40's. No BS, I mean it. I know what I like and dislike. I don't put up with the same crap that I used to. I don't try to "please" people anymore; if I like you, I like you, if I don't, well....I don't... I feel very secure and confident in myself. .... Ya know what, "love me or leave me!!" THIS is who I am.

Oh YEAH! Baby! Woo Hoo!

[Mamabear]

Update:
Went away over the weekend! Had a Fantastic time! Booking reservations to go again before the end of the summer. Although there is still no intimacy , I am ok. I am not putting ANY pressure on my H and I feel that things between us are changing. I AM changing. Not much more to say, just thought I'd update my sitch for anyone that used to follow me.

[MuddleThrough]

Good for you! You seem to really be maintaining a great outlook on yourself and the sitch. I have no doubt that this positivism will keep your H interested in that it will really give him a great idea of how much potential there is for good in the future of your M. Keep it up!

[always_14]

Hey Mama, Happy B day! Glad to hear that things are going well and that you're well. You sound great and seem to be moving a step forward each day. Good for you! Proud of ya!