43 is much sexier than 23! It's all about your attitude and you have enough of it that it won't be long til he has no choice but to pull his head out of that OW's a$$.
I read this thread last night and I think you are doing wonderful!
As for your husband, I think he is very conflicted & tired. Give him time. I don't know how long his A has been going on or if he knows that you know about it, but I can tell you that the shine has worn of his 'new penny', if you know what I'm saying... You keep on like you are and he'll be at that fork in the road before he knows what hit him.... Here's to praying he chooses wisely. I really think he will.
