I started reading "The Dance of Anger" by Harriet Lerner yesterday. It repeats alot of what is in DR. It is worth reading.
I consciencly made an effort yesterday to NOT be the pursurer, i.e. I did not call H at work like I usually do. He came home a little later than usual, I did not react or ask him where he was. I didn't following him upstairs while he changed (learned this from Mars/Venus - give him space when he gets home). He asked me to sit outside with him. Got along great!! No pressure. One thing I did notice was that his wedding ring was on again. This really made me happy!!!! While he was playing and talking with the kids and their friends I could really see that he enjoyed it - like "ya know, THIS is my life and it's great".
I just want to tell everyone that stops by that I wouldn't be where I am today without all of their help!!! Thank you from the bottom of my heart!!
