I just wanted to share with you that when my H started to think more about me and the fam over OW, the little family moments were really the hook that caught him. The boys and I would go to the zoo or have a really fun day, take pictures and all, and H would hear about it and regret missingit, even say, "these are some of the the things I forget to think about." I think in my sitch, he'd bite the hook and I'd reel in too fast. But you sound like you've got a really good grasp on things, keep it up mama!