I think you were right not to confront at night. I know whenever I say aynthing at night it escalates into something bad fast. I have to have the right timing. I too live with H with a terrible time concept. I hate having dinner ready only to have him call at least an hour later and say he is tied up, then an other hour or two to finally see him come in. He only works 7 miles away. It is just another way he is showing me he disrespcts me. I have to get that. If he respected me, he would not be having an affair. Of course he does not respect me enough to come for dinner at the right time. I have to get strong enough to let him know I am worthy of respect and if he cannot give that to me, than he will have to stay away until he thinks he can try. So hard to think about though! However, in the mean time, if he does not respect me, we will get no where. me being nice and doing everything is giving him no consequences at all for his behaviors. It is like having our teenager doing drugs and me sitting back trying to be nice to him while he figures out it is a bad thing. No, someone needs to step in and give some tough love. Still don't know if i am strong enough to do it though.
