Andy, Thanks for the uplifting input. My initial concern was if my strategy needed to shift as I went from winning her back to piecing. Now I have come to realize I need to re-evaluate my goals to achieve the next level.
- Actually, the first one will be to open up the lines of communication to where we both are more confortable discussing whatever issue we have. This has always been a major problem in M. Last weekend, my W was apprehensive to bring up how she uncomfortable she is about the next time we visit with my sister, since she has been a major supporter for me thru all of this. I quickly acknowledged how she shouldn't fear startin such discussions and then we quietly talk about the next time she meets my sister and I tried to ease her concerns.
- A couple of weeks ago in our 1st OR talk about working on marriage, she mentioned how scared she is of things going back to the way they were. I need to tend to this too. I just recently read a thread about the need to make the R feel safe for S. WOW! Yea THAT's IT!! I need her to feel safe & confortable in the R!
Guess this post is more of a journal entry. Sorry to start typing/talking to myself ... W always ribbed me about mummbling to myself!!
Don't know if this was the right thing to do, but W likes to read a book before going to sleep at night and finished all her books. So over the weekend, I asked if she would be interested in reading DR. She reacted lukewarm to the idea, but took the book would read only couple of pages at a time, but last night she really went to town & finished the first two chapters. However, she hasn't made any comments yet. I dying to know what her thoughts are when she reads it. Hope I am not pushing things to quickly by introducing DR to her just couple of weeks after RTR (returning to R).
