I tried to find your story in some of the other threads (difficult to do -- had to do a "search" by your membership number), and from what I can tell you and your wife have not had sex in a while, and when she offers the front of her body to you, you did not take advantage of this situation?
How do you explain that, if I may ask?
I am separated from my wife, but in my mind I am "acting as if" we are going to get back together again. When we do, I don't want to be in your fix (that is, without our full intimate relationship).