It's ironic, but I bet he's tired of the power struggle, too. That's why he doesn't wanna give. That's why he gets short tempered when you want something.
In my case, I broke the circle by giving in completely. She thought I was controlling. Fine. I abrogated all control.
After awhile, she got sick of that. She thought I was giving up things for the wrong reasons. She thought I was giving in simply to keep the peace. She was partially right, but it was also because the only way I could think of to have an equal partnership was for both of us to think that we have one. So, it was her turn to control.
I get the impression that in your case, he’s always been the one in control, so I don’t know if this would work. I have a feeling that you just hafta keep trying to negotiate, and convince him that you’re not after complete control.
A relationship is built on negotiation. Relationships have problems when the couple doesn’t know how to negotiate.
