Forcing independence? I don't know. We are pretty merged in a lot of ways. One just about as much as the other. But at the moment we don't trust each other to provide any kind of emotional safe place. I'm the optimist that keeps things going and I'm getting tired. It would be hard for us to split up but at the moment I wish I could be back with people who know and love me in my home town in some little life that he was not a part of. What I really wish is that we could cut the cr*p and put together some kind of reasonable life together.
