You posted that your H’s work comes waaaaaaaaaay before you. I think you should consider this, 2L…
You are viewing his actions and superimposing assumptions about his feelings onto that. Does he “love” his job? Perhaps, but you certainly can’t compare the “love” of an activity to the love of another person.
Apples and oranges.
And his workaholism must be at least partially motivated by fear. He lost his job once, and it could happen again. Also, men tend to define themselves (a little too much) in terms of their professions. Hard work is a sign of a “good” person.
So, the bad part is that you may be right. He may never change his behavior.
But I can’t help but think that it’s better to be loved than feared. In that respect, you have an enormous advantage over his work. Regardless of how he behaves.
