I havn't been able to identify the denial phase in my H but in '97 he started getting angery w me a lot; his replay involved one more woman one more time; the end of that R put him into depression. Right now we're dealing w withdrawal and glimpses of acceptance (I hope).
About the depression. He was really stressed by the ending of that R. He was grumpy and tired (lot of sleep) and ate a lot also. I noticed that he talked about wanting to be at work. His work was 'his life'. The sourse I was reading said that sometimes the guy experiences this sort of 'active depression'.
It was a secret pleasure to hear him talk less and less of work and now hear him start talking about things that need doing around home.
The trick for you to handle this is to not focus on the job preoccuping him. How do you handle it now? Let's brainstorm and come up w some ideas.
Our C said recently that she thinks the affair was a manifestation of depression. Go figure.
