I dont think any one has ever rose on their death bed and said, "Gee I wish I had spent more time at the office".

Futhermore, when I get angry, my H very rarely has the resources to understand why. He just registers that I'm angry and reacts with shotgun defensiveness, acusations, and withdrawl.

Have you tried not being angry when you tackle him on this matter..just a normal discussion at a nice relaxed time?...or

do you get angry when he comes home from work and just enterd through the door?...

When he is at work what do you do?..

What accusations does he make?.....

Roycer(MICK) [Smile]