Hi Andy!

First day back after being away from the munchkins for 18 days. They missed me so very much. . .my time goes to them today.

I haven't had a chance to catch up on any posts. I am aware that you've hit a bump. I know that you are going to DB your way around it and go on past into the future.

Andy, until your wife humbles herself and seeks medical attention she will have to deal w the fatigue and low libido.

When I recall the way I was a couple of years ago it is easy for me to understand how she would put herself before you. I couldn't see the tree (Sage) for the forest (all the demands on me). I ate sugar to obtain false energy and drank wine to relax me. Everything was stressful and I remember thinking "something's gotta go". It was my spousal relationship that was given the short end.

In my situation it was perimenopause and an undx thyroid condition.

I had to hit bottom before I could put my pride aside and seek medical help.

Here's where your wife and I differ.

You are holding onto yourself (your integrity) and are monagamous because of a vow you made to yourself. (From Passionate Marriage). You are a compassionate man who loves his wife in sickness and in health, for better or for worse.

What a lucky woman she is. (All us ladies here on the bulletin board know this, Andy!!!)

Andy I don't know what to do to help you except to pray that she will go to the doc and that the doc will suggest doing a t panel.

Meanwhile, be patient.

Andy, it took 8 months for my libido to be restored after starting meds. It would have been so . . .beautiful if Sage had been able to hold on to himself.

One day he will realize what he almost lost.

You will never have to go through what is in front of him.

[Smile]