Balance

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You're right, Duchess.

I guess I'm pinning my hopes that it's something physical. Hormones... Anemia...

I just don't want to be the cause. Y'know?

[Phoenix]

Hey Andy, you're sounding better albeit super tired and frustrated. Still hear a little second wind tho.

What have you been doing to help you to get as reasonably over your humps? I mean in learning how to retrain yourself and old ways of doing things. Maybe a little short time councelling is an idea to pursue a bit? I can't remember if you mentioned it. Sometimes it's nice to go somewhere to get all the junk out and if you're paying then it's a safe zone. I did it for a while...she was very neat and understood I wasn't necessarily looking for solutions from her but I sure needed to get many years of garbage out and she was great for me.

I don't open up to too many people. Most people just don't really know what to do with it and I wouldn't expect them to anyway. It's still nice to have trusted someones who you can lean on in a pinch.

You know, IGgy & I are in the throes of what in the past would have been catastrophic times. It hurts but I still just can't get away from how different it is. We're both so tired and I think we've both been changing a lot over the time too. He's being a right bastard and I'm not taking possession of his reverting...yet believe it or not...it's different. We aren't reacting like we did even when we (mostly he) slips back into old habits that are hard to break. It's actually a huge blessing. Maybe you guys are finding your way around to that sort of thing? I hope so.

Thinking of ya and glad to see you making it thru ok. I've said it before...you're growing and changing too. It's quite noticable. That's bound to cause more rough waters .

[lily]

Hi Andy!

First day back after being away from the munchkins for 18 days. They missed me so very much. . .my time goes to them today.

I haven't had a chance to catch up on any posts. I am aware that you've hit a bump. I know that you are going to DB your way around it and go on past into the future.

Andy, until your wife humbles herself and seeks medical attention she will have to deal w the fatigue and low libido.

When I recall the way I was a couple of years ago it is easy for me to understand how she would put herself before you. I couldn't see the tree (Sage) for the forest (all the demands on me). I ate sugar to obtain false energy and drank wine to relax me. Everything was stressful and I remember thinking "something's gotta go". It was my spousal relationship that was given the short end.

In my situation it was perimenopause and an undx thyroid condition.

I had to hit bottom before I could put my pride aside and seek medical help.

Here's where your wife and I differ.

You are holding onto yourself (your integrity) and are monagamous because of a vow you made to yourself. (From Passionate Marriage). You are a compassionate man who loves his wife in sickness and in health, for better or for worse.

What a lucky woman she is. (All us ladies here on the bulletin board know this, Andy!!!)

Andy I don't know what to do to help you except to pray that she will go to the doc and that the doc will suggest doing a t panel.

Meanwhile, be patient.

Andy, it took 8 months for my libido to be restored after starting meds. It would have been so . . .beautiful if Sage had been able to hold on to himself.

One day he will realize what he almost lost.

You will never have to go through what is in front of him.

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142 posts is too many, so I'm continuing over on Swan Dive off the Pedestal see you there.

Andy