You know, and this is just me, but at this point I'd just walk up to her and say "I need this" and I'd put my arms around her and hold her and go from there. Regardless of her reaction.
But then again, you gotta remember where I come from and what my sit has all been about. All my experience showed that however I let him treat me was how he was gonna treat me. And quite honestly for a long time - my not letting him still garnered the same treatment. But I'd rather honestly be alone than live that way and his proposal (thru actions) was that was what life with him was gonna be about.
Not trying to push you. It's just my perspective. There are a lot of mitigating circumstances in your home. I just know that sometimes our SOs need a jolt ...even in our old ways (if they've worked before).
