Hey Andy, in all seriousness, you know that part of DB is figuring out the most likely way to get genuine needs of ours met too. One of the reasons DB didn't work for me the first time I tried it those many moons ago is I was trying to squelch my needs and let him run with his. And did he.
So...how do you suppose you can start turning that big old cart around? Maybe there's a way that's unlike the usual Andy approach to start letting her know that you need her to be a part of the marriage too? Subtle and not insistent but firm all the same. Let her react however she's gonna react - that's not what we're looking for. We're looking for what makes her respond.
If you're ready of course. We've both seen where TrEE & Ultreya have had some pretty good results with some toughies by sticking it out - but they did both change their behaviors too...maybe some reading to get a grasp on what they've actually done and not said?
Anyway, understand the lag time - It's necessary like anything else isn't it? Take care pal.
