Thanks for the response Andy. I am really working on acting normal, and have neen doing a pretty good job of it lately-H has responded in a positive mannor. However.....I have those moments where I need some reassurance from him-read Michelle's post on Healing from infedelity-It involves communication about the A. Striking a blanace is where I'm at. It has not been easy getting here either. I WISH I could forget the OW, but that's just not possible right now. Too soon. I don't throw it in his face, I ask for reassurace about his faithfulness, his love,etc. He's good at giving it to me if the timing is right and I do it in a non-threatening, non accusatory mannor. The anxiety is SLOWLEY getting better. You are right on about decidng you are going to act as if you feel postive-not to is to serve no purpose unless one wants to move further away from thier goals. It ain't easy, but practice makes it get easier. Hope your doing better, although we all deserve our down days-even you!!
