Romance is out. Ya just hafta see her reaction when I try that. I do some light flirting, and sometimes she finds it funny. Other times, she just pulls away. It really depends on how much pressure she’s feeling.
Which brings me to what she’s seeking that I can still give her. Space. The kids are all over her and she can’t say no. She bends over backwards to meet their emotional needs. D#2 is very adept at emotional blackmail. W hates it, but cedes to it.
After a day of giving bike rides, cuddling, conversing, etc. etc. etc. with the kids, it seems like she’s all “affectioned out.” She often takes off by herself, or with MF just to get some space between her and her family.
Sometimes my needs are just another leach hanging off of her. (sigh)
BTW, lest people start getting mad at W for thinking of herself first, she's only trying to strike a balance between her family responsibilities and herself. I may make it sound like she has no time for me, but that's not true.
I just need some one-on-one for which she hasn't enough time or energy.
