It sounds like you pretty much keep things together at your house in just about every way-I have been reading your posts for a long time now and unless I'm mistaken, no matter what your W does, you do not get ANGRY. Just an observation, but I don't think ander is all that bad when used constuctively-It can be a real motivater to make change happen. I am NO expert at any of this-I'm just trying to figure out how to not let my emotions run all my actions-you know I'm an emotional girl! I read on one of your posts to T-Bone about Behavior dictating feelings. Could you elaborate on that some please? I need to do some 180's, and its hard.Oh, you can do them ,but keeping at it is the hard part-even when it brings positive action from H. My feelings and fears, and anxiety get all tangled up, and I act on all that without being able to stop sometimes. He knows how much I want and need him. It's a fine line between detaching and ditancing at least for me. He hates it when I distance, and hates it when I'm needy. I've found out this never stops-I have to keep reading and posting for support and knowledge.
