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And hey, give your wife some breathing room, sheesh.





HA! Right backatcha, bubba.

I read this board every day, and get a lot from it. For some reason, writing about my own sitch never seemed to help me or make me feel better, so I just don't do it much. Rest assured, though, I do find comfort and solace in the misery of you and others here....

I will note, however, that the last "pressure" exchange that I mentioned, led to a blow-up, and possibly some progress. She laid out some things she'd like me to do (very much like your wife's "I need you to feel comfortable with my saying no"), and a timeline, and I'm doing it. So.... time will tell if it's real progress or just another version of her favorite game, which goes like this: "If you will just not pressure me, and pretend you have no sex drive, and be patient for an indeterminate amount of time to be measured in either months or years, then possibly at some point our sex life will improve."

This is not my favorite game. It reminds me a bit of the game your wife likes to play, which is why I've always followed your threads closely.

-Paul