Hairdog, Just let us know if you, umm, accidently off her due to temporary loss of your incredible control of anger. We'll be character witnesses to the perfectly obvious reason as to why you cracked and gave in to impulse.
Ok, she has serious control issues.
Last weekend, while it was hot, my spouse took it upon her self to paint the living room walls over my objections. I got grumpy about for a bit and decided it was not something to lose my temper over. Now had you decided to do the same, the walls would have red with your blood. I have no idea how your staying sane. However, I also have no brilliant suggestions as to how to help other than to say keep looking for something that will allow her to see what a F-ing out of control, control freak she is.
Stay sane my friend. To calm down, my solution is several episodes of Trek, however you can insert your own favorite series or movie. "Cars" and "Superman Returns" are also both excellent and have the added bonus of getting you out of the house.
Scott -Who will be communing with the Klingons this weekend at an SF con.
"Satisfaction is not guaranteed." Rule #19 Ferengi "Rules of Acquistition"