Re HD In these situations, I get called to task for not talking with her about something.
Posted on MoJo's thread but it might apply here.
BB has cats and dogs. Some cats run from the dogs. Those cats get chased mercilessly. Other cats don't run from the dogs. The dog's bark has no effect on this group of cats.
While barking dogs and running or not running cats might not be equivalent to your situation, I think sometimes being a running cat just makes the dog bark louder. I am encouraging you not to be like the group of running cats.
