Quote: Fran...when I try to be assertive (without being aggressive) now, I just get accused of being a control freak, or not caring what she thinks, etc.
"I note that you think I'm being a control freak."
And continue on.
Since she's the one that is usually issuing the orders, I am assuming that your assertion of confidence is an attempt to not follow one of her dictates.
Or are you attempting to assert yourself by asking that she do something?
How are you asserting yourself?
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Then, even when I explain that I'm trying to be the "confident man" she desires,
HD, this is wrong on so many levels.
"But honey, I'm trying to be the confident man you desire."
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she'll then say that what I should have done was x, or what I should have said was y.
"Wife, you would really make a great assertive man!"
