Hey Hairdog, this post pulled me out of lurker status. I have been reading these boards even before you signed on.
Here is my take on what your wife is saying to you.... she is like most wives or significant others, in the end she wants to be desired and loved by you, even if she doesn't have the sexual desire for you her recent comments about wanting you to initiate confidently simply mean she wants you to keep on, keeping on, even if she rejects you and doesn't feel like it, simply because most women in the end want to feel loved and desired.
So, I sense that she sees that you have backed off in this area and wants to get you back in the game, as to what to do next I am baffled as the rest of the gang here.
