Re Cally There was something I was very guilty of in my marriage. And it is something I have really worked on. It is that I was way to controlling and critical. My husband finally got sick of it and took his control back. He did things like others have suggested you do. Like if I wasn't happy with the way the floor got done he told me do it myself. He didn't care what the outcome was of his getting his masculinity back. For a long time with many things he just didn't want a conflict so would go with the flow like you. But let me tell ya he really built up resentment and so much anger. Now let me also tell you back then I didn't respect him. I guess maybe the more I controlled, deep down, the more respect I was losing so it was a vicious cycle. That sounds like my house. Wow, it's good to see someone who understands some of the issues instead of blaming the OP.
I think his LD was a result of something he could control and a way to hurt me as I was hurting him. It could have been payback. But maybe it was just giving up, getting tired of fighting an up-hill battle. At least that is what it is for me.
You try to be silent because you just don't want the conflict. This sounds really true Cally. FWIW for Cally.
