Re HD I guess the unfortunate thing is that, I have been playing the detachment game for so long that, I just don't have a lot of interest in her right now. Doing something similar here HD.
I'm not likely to put my neck on the block and hand her the axe. I agree. The part of handing her the cards is putting your neck on the chopping block, but if you don't let her words feel like an attack, I would say that she then would be somewhat axe-less.
To be honest, I do find it difficult to determine what is healthy (for the R and for me)detachment. I am always concerned about doing damage to the R. So in a sense I am a novice too when it comes to determining what is good for me, good for the R, and good for BB. I see you doing the samething similar sometimes.
Where is that Rabbi Shmuley Boteach when you need him?
