Hey HP! I totally get what you're saying here. I was thinking about asking her this: "You say you want me to initiate in a confident way. I'm having trouble understanding what you mean. What, specifically, would a 'confident initiation' look like to you?"
I don't think she could give me a straight answer, but I suppose that's not the goal. The goal is to tell her that I'm tired of jumping through the moving hoops, and, instead of doing the jumping, I'm prepared to sit down and talk about why the hoops need to go away.
